Thursday, December 02, 2004


This is an email that i got from an iranian man who has been living in Canada for a year. he thinks that Despite the Mullah Regime, living in Iran will bring the most joy to every single Iranian. his point of view is so interesting to me.


"...Being in Iran will bring the most joy because its the only place where you are just like the others. You have the same ideas, thinking methods, looking, feeling, heritage, and many and many other overlaps with your own people. Being in a foreign country might help you to make more money and be free. But, think about it, if you come here, you will be like a flower that has came to another place with a completely different climate. You will soon deteriorate in this climate. Everyone feels, acts, thinks, works, and lives different. They don't understand you. You are not important to them. But, I confess that you are right about the government and poverty over there. And I confess that I can't stand living over there. But I always have a strange feeling that persuades me to come back to Iran.

Now, about why are Iranians so unique, I must confess that I don't completely understand. Iranian friendship and relations are always more powerful than here. People really enjoy being together. uncles, aunts, grand parents, and the rest of the relatives enjoy being together. They spend more time together and don't feel as lonely as people in foreign countries. Many people commit suicide over here for the lack of somebody to care for them. Many parents kick their children out at the age of 18. Many children get rid of their parents by putting them in nursing companies when they get old. Everyone feels a lack of love, and group life over here. Everyone is lonely. If many girls in Iran escape from their home, many parents kick their girls out over here..."


13 Comments:

Blogger PersianArchitect said...

This friend has some justified remarks.It has become so hard for us to become global.We have become such a confused nation.

6:20 PM  
Blogger jett said...

Two quick points...I'm not sure I would want to live in a place where everyone lived and thought the same. That is part of the challenge in life, learning and experiencing new things. Sure that means bad will come with the good but like I said, that's part of the challenge. Besides, it keesp things from getting boring. :)

And I can only give you a Western view but I think the author of that email is the one who is lonely. Sure most people leave home around 18 in the West but they aren't normally kicked out. They want to leave. It is a sign of independence. Often they get a job or attend university about this age. This is a cultural difference but not in itself a bad thing. Western society is more individual but that doesn't mean the families are less connected or care about each other to a lesser degree. Just means they interact differently.

8:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, Western life is more lonely. That can't be denied. Loneliness is the price for all the space and freedom.
Atmikha

8:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"[I]nteresting" is one way to put it, I suppose. It is common to be nostalgic within the first few years of immigration, which could explain this man's bizarre and twisted view of things. As a female Iranian, I will choose loneliness and disporia over the endless cultural problems and lack of human rights in Iran.

1:34 PM  
Blogger Marco said...

OFF-TOPIC:
The Iranian Baha'i Community has addressed a letter to President Khatamy
You may read it (in English) in my blog.
If anyone wants, I also have the original Persian version.

5:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello Fatema,
This is the first time i`ve read your blog, and i`ve found it to be very interesting....especially as i`m planning a visit to Tehran. The last time I visited was 28 years ago, aged 2 years!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights. I look forward to reading some more.


Jacqui

(living in the U.K. Iranian mother/British father)

5:46 PM  
Blogger TTIM said...

Suicide isn't any more common in western cultures than in any other. Suicide is motivated by mental disease not loneliness or isolation. Families are close in western cultures but you don’t commonly see multiple generations living under the same roof. The same emotions exist but they are just presented differently. Your correspondant is homesick so he sees nothing pleasant around him.

9:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As a Candian with three Persian friends (2 of whom were born in Iran, 1 whose parents were born there, but who was born here in Canada), I have to say that I'm sort of surprised at this email. My friends always comment how they miss Iran, but when it comes to where they want to live, they'd never think about living anywhere but Canada (which always surprises me considering how cold it is!) It would be interesting to know how old the person who emailed you is, I have a feeling that the older generations might prefer an Iranian lifestyle, but that younger ones would enjoy a Canadian one (unless maybe if they are very religious).

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

I must disagree with the writer of the email.

We are not 'more lonely' in the West. He makes it sound like we all hate our families and eachother. Just not true.

And since when is being different a bad thing? To take his flower analogy further: how would you expect a species of flower to grow and evolve into a more beautiful flower? Well, you'd expect that flower to spread itself, as far as possible, in order to better itself and its further generations. Such is the nature of life on this planet.

If we didn't broaden our horizons and seek out new challenges and experiences, where would WE be as a species?

Love your blog by the way. Why did you stop writing in it?

3:34 AM  

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